Self-care seems like a buzz word these days. Everyone is talking about it, and well, it seems far fetched in the days of quarantine. It looks different for everyone and for those who are solo during the quarantine (God bless you all!) it may be completely different from those of us with kiddos. Either way, now in these stressful times, self-care is of utmost importance.
Self-care is defined as something we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, it’s something we very often overlook. It’s key to managing our emotional health and anxiety. There are a few fantastic TED talks on self-care that are worth a watch.
As I’ve mentioned before, I suffer from sometimes crippling anxiety. I can be moody and sullen – as I’m sure most of us can be – and staying positive in these stressful times has been challenging, especially when to reset, I need space. Having hubs and my 7-year-old around 24/7 has not helped my efforts to reset on most days. C’est la vie.
So how do you self-care when you’re stuck at home?
Here are my tried and true methods for resetting. Though self-care is not a one-time thing, these are some of the actions I take when I need a reset and to take care of my mental or emotional well being.
Relaxing Bubble Bath
A friend of mine recently said she was all self-cared out – she did a face mask, an eye mask, did a spray tan, and locked herself in the bathroom for a solid hour – it sounded glorious. Hubs himself likes to light a candle, add some bubbles and take a relaxing bubble bath with some mood music and his kindle. Take some time, lock yourself in your bathroom and relax.
For me, self-care is about movement. Yoga, running, a nice walk – something to get me outside with fresh air. Running has been super important to me during this quarantine – while I miss my group runs, having 30-45 minutes of solitude without someone talking, has been nice. I live with a couple of talkers and sometimes, I just really like quiet and getting in a solo workout helps my mind and body. It’s also just taking care of my body – physical health is just as important as your emotional health and working out checks that box in a big way for me.
Take Care of Your House
I find solitude in a clean house, sometimes getting into the zone and cleaning the house is self-care for me. To me, it’s rewarding to have a sparkling kitchen and an uncluttered living room – clutter in and of itself makes me anxious and just feels unsettled. Like there’s more to do. So picking up allows me to relax and feel happy in my space.
A few weeks ago, the EveryMom wrote a great article on how to clean your space in 15 minutes or less. The important part of all this is determining what clean looks like to you. We’re a cluttery family so reducing our clutter footprint is always my goal, additionally having a clean kitchen and clean bathrooms is always important to me so I spend extra time to focus on those efforts. No one wants to spend a full day cleaning their home, so taking a little time each day to have a space that you feel good spending time in (especially now) is – to me at least – super important.
Dive into a Good Book
I admit, I haven’t been reading as much as I should – I tend to mindlessly turn to some games on my iPhone when I want to zone out. But diving into a great book is a great way to find some self-care. Let your mind turn off and just be engrossed in words in another world. I haven’t shared my recent reads, but I am on Goodreads and share my To Reads and Current reading books there.
I used to journal a lot, I have at least half a dozen journals documenting my teenage angst. I haven’t done it as much lately but I do enjoy writing things out. Letting emotions out on paper has always been a huge relief for me and a great way to take care of my emotional wellbeing.
In addition, Hubs got me the Bullet Journal Method book for my birthday – the theory behind bullet journaling is FASCINATING. I’ve been a “light” bullet Journal-er for a couple of years now but I’m really looking forward to diving more into it in the coming weeks to keep myself organized.
For a couple of weeks, I was having a really hard time sleeping. I find this is often the case when my anxiety is especially high. BUT I found a couple of solutions one of which is meditating right before bed. The Calm app, and the Peloton Digital app both have fantastic meditations (also, Peloton is offering free 90 day trials of their digital app).
Self-care looks different to everyone. Determine what is going to help your mental, physical, and emotional health and give you a sense of peace and calm. Now, more than ever, find ways to reduce your stress, ease your expectations, and take care of yourself.
How do you practice self-care?