March | Currently

Happy March my friends! It’s time again for the Currently Linkup! The first Wednesday of every month, we share what we’re currently up to. Thanks to Anne and her cohost Carrie for the linkup and the brilliant topics!

Watching | Aside from my silly Bachelor addiction, we recently got into Good Girls Revolt on Amazon and The Good Fight (because we were HUGE Good Wife fans and Christine Baranski is AMAZING).

Eating | ALL of the trader Joes goodies lately. Their Wine Country Chicken Salad over salad is a favorite for lunch, as well as the orange chicken alongside some cauliflower fried rice, has been in regular rotation for dinner lately over in these parts. Add in an 11 day “cleanse,” and I’m hoping that something happens with the scale over the next three weeks before we head to Florida for our vacation (the first, since our HONEYMOON 8 years ago!!!!)

Saying | anything positive. We’re still working on potty training with little dude and we’re trying to keep all comments surrounding that positive and encouraging. So praising and rewarding…that’s what we’re saying in these parts.

WearingSo many things. This swing dress, this ruffled shirt, and my favorite Tippi sweater have been in regular rotation. As well as this gingham top and my favorite FAVORITE skirt. Love love love.

Posting | Regularly! I’m week three for three with at least one post per week. This week I have three posts scheduled – I’ve stopped overthinking my posting and just been…writing whenever the inspiration hits. I’m not focused as much on promotion and not thinking about traffic numbers but having fun with writing which is what I wanted to get back to. Everything else will come in time!

What are YOU currently up to? 

Join the Currently link up the first wednesday of every month hosted by Anne

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Four Working Mom Gripes (Part 1)

I went back to work to a dream job opportunity when E was 11 months old. I was blessed that I had 11 months with him at home and am grateful for the opportunity and the friendships I made during that time – friendships that I have today, even if they are tougher to maintain thanks to work and where we bought our house. But the transition from stay at home mom to working mom was…not an easy one. 

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As a working mom, there are a few things that bother me (I could say us, but I’m not speaking collectively for all working moms) – the lack of maternity leave in the US (DUH), employers who aren’t flexible with schedules and/or think that children are a huge burden, and summer vacations to name a few. I digress, I see things on facebook that just never cease to annoy the crap out of me and not gonna lie, make me feel a little less than as a working parent. Here are five things I see most frequently that take the cake in terms of anti-working mama. 

Workout classes after 8a or before 430p

This is not just true as a working mom – as any working adult with a commute of longer than 10 minutes who works between the hours of 8 am – 6 pm – workout classes at 830 am are not geared towards anyone with a job. It irks me that gyms cater to the “stay at home crowd” because,  well, I like workout classes too and the only one pre-8 am class is a spinning class at 6 am and even then, I have to hustle to make it to my office by 8a thanks to a crappy 40 minute (most days) commute. I know it’s demand based and varies gym by gym (some gyms are better about 530a classes, others not so much) but still, I’d love to see more 5:30a classes, or classes later in the evenings (I’ve recently found a 7:30 pm yoga class on Fridays that has become my new favorite thing.). No, i’m not saying my SAHM counter-parts don’t deserve to workout too – just more time variety is all I’m asking here. When there’s only 5 people in the 6a Monday spin class (more likely an indicator of the instructor…who was terrible) you’ve gotta wonder if the times you’re offering are really working for the pre-school drop off crowd. 

Workout classes for moms. But only stay at home moms.

Listen, I get it: Stay at home parents need to socialize and they need to workout. I loved Stroller Strides as a workout when I was home with E. Granted, I thought some of the moms were a little cliquey, but the mission of Stroller Strides is a fantastic one and it’s been fantastic to see the chapters near me take off since I stopped participating back in late 2013. However, unless you can pay an obscene amount for their “Body Back” program, don’t expect to reap any of those benefits of that specific to mom workout program. Classes are usually held during working hours and rarely can you find a class on the weekends (some chapters have Saturday am classes and bless those Saturday morning Body Boost classes….that I have yet to try out but keep meaning to). I’ve been interested in trying Stroller Barre since I was at home with little dude and fuck if it finally came to the Annapolis and Severn Stroller Strides groups, and of course the classes are on Tuesday and Thursday mornings respectively at like 9 am. Guess working moms are just not their target demographic.

Stroller strides isn’t the only one who is a little neglectful of the working mama crowd, the “Goddess Yoga” class at my local yoga studio – geared towards women, and pregnant women – is at 3:30pm…during the week. Who in the eff can hit up an hour long class during that time?! I mean if you don’t work, you probably have kiddos (this studio does not have child care) and if they’re school aged….you’re probably picking them up soooo…yeah. Who can actually hit up a yoga class at that time on a weekday – because I want to do whatever it is that allows you to have a schedule where you can fit in 3pm yoga classes. #justsaying

Child care at gyms or yoga studios only on weekday mornings…not on weekends

I want to start by noting that our gym has childcare on Saturday AM but not Sunday AM – on Sunday’s  it’s 1-430 on Sundays which…is naptime in our house. We don’t use the gym daycare often – usually only when Hubs is gone for drill, but the part that inspired this was an audacious post in a Facebook group. One mom was looking for a yoga studio with childcare because she had a demanding full-time job and wanted some de-stressing – duh.

Some of the comments made me wonder if they had read her full post and the third comment, well – if someone states “demanding job” in the original post, my guess is that their job is ALWAYS on M/W/Friday. #justsaying. Another yoga studio I frequented when we lived in Annapolis had childcare that was also only weekday mornings which really just bugged the shit out of me because well, working mamas want to yoga too.

Playdates only during weekdays – no evenings or weekends because “family time”

I’m grateful that the mix of mama friends I have are open to weekend playdates. We’ve had family playdates with friends where the adults hang out with some adult beverages and good food, we’ve had playdates on drill weekends at parks, friends houses and weekend lunchtime dates. I don’t rely on playdates on every weekend because hubs likes – similar to my stay at home mama pals who don’t see their partners for 40+ hours per week – for them to be family time, but he’s never stopped me from planning or going to an occasional play date on a weekend for a couple hours so little dude and I can have some socializing time. Mostly though, I really take advantage of Drill weekends to get friend time in for Little Man and I.

Anytime anyone says they could “never leave their child to be raised by someone else” as a response to a post about whether someone should go back to work or not. 

This has been said to me on more than one occasion – and I get that. I do. But here are the two things that people who either stay at home with their kiddos currently or formerly stayed at home with their kiddos….it’s not financially feasible for many families to live on only one income, and two, not every mother WANTS to stay at home with their kids. I didn’t major in early childhood development – I struggled greatly with what I now think was undiagnosed PPD, staying at home for me left me feeling inadequate, isolated and unhappy with myself. It’s best for our family for me to work and I think I’m a better mother because of it – I want my child to see me work hard and have pride in what I do every day and what I bring to our family. It’s not for everyone and I get that – it’s the whole choice thing – you do you. I do me. Mutual respect, right?

I know some of these are…a little petty but let’s be equal opportunity here – working mamas like to hit up the gym too (though most of us struggle with it) and we like play dates and meeting other moms – working or not.

What parenting gripe do you have?

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Weekly Workouts: the workout fail edition

So last week? Not perfect. Workout wise, I had two dud workouts: a 6am Monday workout with one of, if not THE WORST, spin instructors ever, and a post-work run where I had to drag myself over to the trail only to realize I had to pee REAL BAD and spent the second half of my run worrying about peeing myself so I cut it short…and ran one mile…out of the three I had planned. Ugh.

But alas, pick myself back up. Here’s the dealie-o

Monday: Rest day
Tuesday: Run 3
Wednesday: strength something or other
Thursday: TBD but either an AM pilates workout OR a run
Friday: Hot yoga
Saturday: 3 on the treadmill and spinning
Sunday: yoga and/or a run when hubs gets home

Adam has drill so, getting in a long run is going to be tough without doing it on the treadmill since little man will NOT tolerate the jogging stroller. Saturday morning, we can make our way to the gym for sure, BUT each time I go to a class OR hit up the treadmill half way through my workout they come find me because my child crapped his pants. So I can never expect too much. Thankfully, we have the treadmill in our basement so I can do SOMETHING during nap time…if he takes one.

So yeah, solo parenting for the weekend and getting in a solid workout….do NOT go hand in hand.

Last week by the Numbers:

Starting weight: 159.4 (UGHHHH, Of course, I was PMS’ing so cue all of the emotions and bloat and sugar cravings.) My goal was 150 by the time we head to Disney on 3/21, that might take a damned miracle at this point. *sigh*
Workouts: five
Monday Spin; Tuesday, run;
Miles ran: 7 (LOLOLOL)
Best workout: a perfect six mile run on Saturday in the MOST perfect weather ever.
Worst Workout: tie – the 3-mile run that turned into 1 mile when I near peed myself .3 miles in, or the 6 AM spin class with the instructor who played Elton John…and not fun Elton John either…).
Biggest fail: Trying to make it to a 6 pm Rev Cycle class in Baltimore from the Baltimore HUG group – getting across town in Baltimore apparently takes nearly an hour. I was 8 minutes late for the class before I parked so after losing 20 minutes in traffic, and knowing they weren’t going to let me in (10-minute policy) I called it and went home.

Note to self: never double book myself for workouts after work events. I did that two weeks ago with an event in Annapolis…trying to make it to a 7;30 yoga class and failed miserably (taking a front row seat will do that.). Note to self… just don’t.

This week’s goals
Run 10 miles
Stick to my “11 day reset” that I’m starting tomorrow.

 

What are your weekly workout/weight loss goals? 

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Lustworthy: BaubleBar for Target

I’ve got a thing for statement jewelry.  I have a few pieces that are “dainty” and sentimental but really, my chunky, statement necklaces are what I grab most days. So I super pumped to see that #targetdoesitagain with their latest partnership with Baublebar – one of my favorite jewelry joints.

They have a great variety of necklaces, bracelets, and earrings – I don’t wear earrings much, and bracelets aren’t really my jam (except for the one I picked – this one is perfectly dainty and not bulky)  but the necklaces are ON POINT. See my favorites below! Baublebar for Target

(Top Row L-R: One, Two, Three,
Bottom row L-R: Four, Five, Six)

Seriously loving these pieces from the statement colors to the pears to the bling – this line is everything for me and I’m in serious love and want all of the pieces.

Have you checked out the Baublebar line for Target yet? What are your favorite pieces?

{FTA disclosure: All opinions here are my own. This post has no affiliation with Target or Baublebar and is not sponsored. This post may contain affiliate links that provide some extra $$ in my pocket if you click and make a purchase}

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Weekly Workouts

Once upon a time, I used to share my weekly workouts. It was a type of accountability and it worked pretty flipping good. So in a hope to revive the accountability I’m so craving when it comes to my training, I’m bringing them back.

The past few months, I’ve been a part of a weight loss accountability group – but I’m struggling. I’m struggling with thyroid levels that are making my weight loss – once easy pre-Ethan – now an uphill battle; I’m struggling with a sugar addiction that’s so hard to quit even though I know I need to. I’m struggling with motivation (see #1 – my thyroid issues make me tired like…just exhausted 90% of the time), so as I’m half way through this round, it’s time to get on track – and by on track I mean since my girls weekend up to Boston a month ago, the three pounds I gained from a small piece of cake and a few drinks. Every ounce of sugar or carb that I eat is nearly impossible to lose. There are no words as to how discouraging this is and how incredibly low one feels knowing that you weigh about five pounds less than you did at 38 weeks pregnant.

I’m struggling with thyroid levels that are making my weight loss – once easy pre-Ethan – now an uphill battle; I’m struggling with a sugar addiction that’s so hard to quit even though I know I need to but I just don’t know how. I’m struggling with motivation (see #1 – my thyroid issues make me tired like…just exhausted 90% of the time), so as I’m half way through this round, it’s time to get back on track – and by on track I mean since my girls weekend up to Boston a month ago, the three pounds I gained from a small piece of cake and a few drinks. Every ounce of sugar or carb that I eat is nearly impossible to lose. There are no words as to how discouraging this is and how incredibly low one feels knowing that you weigh about five pounds less than you did at 38 weeks pregnant.

So, I’ve been talking for a while about going sugar and gluten-free – something I’ve read many who are hypothyroid should do (inflammation and autoimmune stuff) – so here’s hoping that helps. But each week, I’ll be sharing my workouts, the previous weeks weigh in – in hopes that this will keep me accountable and help my motivation.

Last week By the Numbers

Weight: 157.8
Workouts: 3
Miles: 8

This Week’s Workouts

Workouts: 5

Monday: 6 AM Spinning
Tuesday: Run 30 min
Wednesday: Run 45 min
Thursday: Rest
Friday: Yoga
Saturday: Run 6
Sunday: Yoga/Rest

I’m nearly three weeks into my Cherry Blossom 10 miler training – and so far I’ve been solidly getting 3 runs per week. I need to up both cross training and/or strength training BUT I think, upping my yoga game (I’ve been fitting in 1-2 yoga workouts a week for the past two weeks and it feels so good) may suffice for both. in addition, I’m THISCLOSE to signing up for half marathon #5 in Dewey Beach in mid-April – the perfect 34th birthday celebration (albeit two weeks AFTER my birthday).

What goals are you working towards right now?

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Six Blogging Mistakes to Stop Making Today

I had a post written about how I was going to take a break from blogging. Then I got inspired and wrote like 9 posts in the matter of an hour. Apparently, all it takes is writing in Google Docs. 

I decided I was done over-thinking blogging – I’ve been blogging for the better part of 16 years and up until the past few months, rather consistently. This isn’t my full-time job, nor do I have any desire to make it as such. I blog because I love writing and because I love the blogging community. Because I love reading other blogs. Because I love sharing ideas and inspiring others.

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I’ve been making a few mistakes, though – especially over the past year or two. Blogging isn’t the same as it used to be – it is certainly much more involved since I started in 2001 and even more so since my first influencer campaign in 2008. In order to be “successful” or to be considered an “influencer,” there’s just so much more “stuff” to do.  But if I stop having this vision of success in my head and stop marching to the beat of the drum of other bloggers, I’ll find that I still very much love this hobby that I’ve held onto for so long. 

Stop: Over-thinking EVERYTHING

Stop thinking about the quality of my pictures. How often or frequently I share. How often I post. How often I post to social media. Why doesn’t X favorite blogger read me? Why can’t I look cute in that outfit? You get it. Over thinking. My nemesis. I need to stop right now and just do me. 

Stop thinking You need an in-depth content calendar

I am the queen of content calendars. But I don’t REALLY need one for myself. A lot of bloggers will make you think you do – but honestly? Ehhh. They’re overrated unless you’re churning out content like a machine. Me? I’m not a machine and life happens so the likelihood of sticking to a content calendar for my personal blog is slim to zilch. 

Stop thinking you NEED to only write on one topic or stick to one niche

I keep thinking that I need to write about ONE thing. Or perfect ONE topic. That I need to be super well versed in and write about one thing. Here’s the thing. I like to write about a lot of things. Parenting. Sharing outfit posts and my love of shopping. Marketing – especially blogging and social media; I might not be a high-paid, professional lifestyle blogger but I AM a marketer by trade so I know a thing or two  about social media and creating content and just because I’m not a high paid lifestyle blogger doesn’t mean I can’t share that expertise. 

Stop thinking that you NEED to promote the crap out of your blog

Listen, I can promote my blog until the cows come home. I can schedule shit, make Pinterest-worthy pictures but see point #1 – I over-think and my overthinking paralyzes me and then I just don’t do anything. It’s a vicious cycle. So here’s the thing – read my blog or don’t but I’m not going to waste my time promoting my posts over and over and over again or scheduling them on Pinterest or creating an email list that I just don’t know what I’d do with. Because ultimately I’m just going to honeybadger it up and share what I want and if I feel like working towards an email list maybe I will maybe I won’t but for now? I want to stick to basics and just write. 

Stop thinking you need uber professional photography to be a style blogger.

I’m a working mom. I get up every day between 6:15a and 6:30a and am out the door by 7:15 am. The other day I wanted to document my outfit….you know where I took the picture? In a bathroom stall before I changed into running clothes to go for a short post work run. Suuurreee professional photos always look better but don’t bathroom stall pictures have a little more real life aspect? One of these days I WILL do a styled photo shoot – but probably not in 40-degree weather. Still, though, I read plenty of bloggers without someone taking pro-like quality photos and there’s nothing wrong with that. Get of your head that you NEED a professional photographer to take your photos to be a well-liked blogger.

Stop getting caught up in the Comparison Trap

Guilty. Guilty as charged. There are tons of bloggers I adore and read every day. But I compare myself to them. I worry I’m not skinny enough or that I look too fat in my outfits. I worry that my content isn’t authentic enough (it is). I worry I’m not good enough for blogging anymore because I don’t get sponsorships anymore. I don’t blog enough. I don’t have a large enough email list. I don’t post enough to Pinterest….you get the picture. I need to stop comparing myself and worrying that I’m not “doing it right” and just do me.

Stop doing it for the money

I haven’t gotten paid for blogging in a long time. But doing it for the prospect of getting paid, lacks a certain authenticity – every blogger knows that. Every blogger. Also the likelihood? Well, blogging has become slightly oversaturated so standing out as a big fish in a big pond requires a lot of effort. And I’m not gonna lie, I just don’t have that kind of energy. Sure, I’ve certainly envisioned or dreamt about working with big brands but when you take away the hopes of getting paid, you find a more authentic voice. Because it all comes back to over-thinking it all. Just stahhhpppp.

So those are the things I’m guilty of and the “resolutions” I’m going to take to get this whole blogging thing back on track so that it feels less like work and more like something I truly enjoy doing in my free time that isn’t a burden. I’m going to stop them all. I’m going to not set expectations for myself for how often I need to blog based on how often I think I SHOULD blog. I’m going to share on my social networks as I do but not over and over and over and over again like I “should.” I’m just going to do me for a little while here in my little corner of the blogosphere.

 

What’s your biggest blogging Mistake? 

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February Stitch Fix Box

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Happy February friends! After a couple of disastrous Stitch Fix boxes, I moved my Fix to quarterly. I updated my profile to be more specific, asked for a new stylist and even asked for a couple of specific pieces that I’ve seen across the blogosphere, 

This month? That feedback paid off in one of the best fixes I’ve received. If half of it had fit me better I probably would have kept ⅗ of the box. So we’re closer. Much closer. 

Margaret M Deandra A- Line Skirt

stitch fix skirt

Ugh, I wanted to love this skirt. I did. The pattern was on point but it bunched up in the front and wasn’t the most flattering cut for me.

Verdict: Return

 

Skies are Blue Farley Lace Detail Blouse

Stitch fix lace detail top

Man, these petite tops are not working for me. Not working. This was cute, and I am all about both navy AND lace but just nope. Too small – and while I love the exchange option that Stitch Fix added, this top wasn’t available in any sizes. Wamp wamp. (Also please excuse my wet hair and the mess on the dresser…it’s Hubs’s side. This was NOT my best “photo shoot”) 

Verdict: Return 

Market & Spruce Evella Boatneck top

stitch fix evella boat neck top

I specifically requested this top. I wanted it in blue (I’m still on the prowl for it, will trade!) but got a purple-ish pink instead. I could have done with a size up because it was more fitted than I prefer, BUT the small worked.

Verdict: KEEP!!!

Market & Spruce Anella Puffer Vest

Stitch FIx puffer vest

If only…I loved this. The dots were on point. The fit was good. It was a winner. Buuuttt I just got a vest for Christmas that’s similar (though not polka dot) and I have a plain navy vest. But seriously, I loved this (and the price wasn’t terrible either!!).

Verdict: Return

Skies are Blue Gustav Chambray Top 

Stitch Fix chambray top

Another winner – but a terrible fit and was sold out in other sizes. Another petite size, another just…womp womp. But I loved the style and the chambray is always a winner in my closet (nevermind the fact that I have THREE other chambray style tops).

Verdict: Return (reluctantly)

Have you tried Stitch Fix yet? If not, it’s a favorite package of mine – even if it hasn’t been perfect – and I’d love for you to use my link to sign up


As always, this post may contain affiliate links, and/or if you sign up using my link I may get some referral benefits  but no Stitch Fix boxes have been provide for free. Womp.  All opinions here are my own. 

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Currently | February

Happy February! I missed the currently link up last month but this time around I’m back on it. A new month, new goals right? Right.

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Packing | Last week I would have said packing for a girls weekend to Boston. This week…. I’m not packing anything but my lunches. Lately: delicious wine country chicken salad from Trader Joes. If you haven’t tried it? I highly recommend.

Jonesing | For spring. If you’re not going to give me a real winter with real snow Mother Nature, just give me spring. Sunshine later for evening runs and warm enough weather to wear dresses. If I can’t have a good few inches of snow, I just want spring.

Texting | to make sure Hubs is surviving. He was home with Little Man two days this week because Little Dude was sick and this past weekend while i galivanted around Boston with girl friends for the weekend. Little man can be a handful, after a meltown today out and about (they were getting stir crazy) I’m pretty sure hubs is ready to get back to work.

Reading | I just finished “Love Warrior” by Glennon Doyle Melton which was fantastic, raw and emotional. I just started after I got home from Boston “Hungry Heart” by Jennifer Weiner, who is might I add, my all time favorite author.

hearting | my boys. I missed them so much even though I was only gone for about 24 hours, absense even though a short one just makes the heart that much fonder.

As always, linking up with Anne for the Currently Link Up. Join in the first Wednesday of every month

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What I wore: Ruffles and Heels

There are two things that scream girly to me – ruffled anything and pretty shoes, specifically, heels.

I’ve begged off wearing heels for a while now, but for some reason, I felt like I wanted to feel a little stepped up. So heels it was!

You may recognize this top from my Inbound suitcase – it’s a little lightweight, a find from the big summer/fall Nordstrom sale – BUT since it’s been unseasonably warm for January, I didn’t freeze. Of course it helps that I keep a heater at my desk because I get cold easily and prefer warm feet.

BP ruffle blouse

{pants | top (similar, similar) | necklace (similar) | heels (similar, similar)  }

What do you wear when you want to feel girly? 

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2017 Race Plans

I’m back to running. After I DNS’ed Dewey Beach in September, I took some time off. I had to. I was heartbroken that my training had gone terribly and that I DNS’ed not one, not two, but three races this fall (Iron Girl, Dewey Beach Tri, and MCM 10k). It was time to reevaluate where running fit into my life. But now it’s time to lace up again. With the new year,  I set a couple of fitness goals:

  • Run 10 races
  • Run 500 miles
  • Complete Bikini Body Guide

Not entirely out there and not out there. I hate setting mileage goals but I’m numbers driven when it comes to fitness related goals so there they are.

As for races? Here are some I’m intrigued and the ones I’m actually registered for (3 of 10)

  1. Penguin Pace 5k – February 2017
  2. Valentines Day 5k – February 2017
  3. Cherry Blossom 10 miler – April 2017
  4. Shape Women’s Half OR Ocean City HalfMAYBE April 2017 (I’m trying to decide if i want to commit to a half marathon this spring…)
  5. JLA Volunteers on the Run 5k – May 2017
  6. Women’s Distance Festival – May 2017
  7. Zooma 10k – June 2017
  8. Maryland Duathlon – July 2017 (MAYBE? I haven’t decided if I’m up for a multisport event this year or if I want to focus on just running…)
  9. Baltimore Marathon Relay – October 2017
  10. 10k Across the Bay – November 2017
  11. Turkey Trot 10k – November 2017

So there – eleven races. I’m not sure if I’ll race all of them – BUT I think my biggest goal is to register for another half marathon.

I’ve wanted to get half number five under my belt for a while now. This spring, since I deferred my Cherry Blossom 10 miler last year and will be running it this year,  would be the perfect time for it.  The Shape Women’s Half was my first half back in 2010 and I’d love to get a do-over. I’m also looking at the Ocean City Half – but I need to look at registrations, race weekends, and Hubs and I’s schedule to see what’s realistic and what’s not.

Ten miler training kicks off at the end of January – next week to be exact. I’m kicking it off with the Zooma Run Love challenge – which is a fun kick start to the year.* Registration is closed for this, BUT you can sign up for Zooma Annapolis (10k or half marathon) and get 10% off with code HEIDI2017.

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What fitness or racing goals do YOU have for this year? 

{FTC Disclosure: I am an ambassador to Zooma and do receive free race entry to the Zooma race series. All thoughts here are my own and have not been influenced in any way.}

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