See here’s the funny thing about goals….
…no one knows what they are, and how to support you if you don’t talk about them. Granted Brian Tracy, whom I became familiar with from my time at lululemon, will tell you that people want to see you fail and to not talk about them. But, I believe the opposite. If you don’t talk about your goals? People won’t be able to support you and help you reach them.
So I talked about them. For the past few weeks I’ve been a big ole mess not knowing if I was on the right path. Not knowing I was going in the right direction. I talked about it at length with the husband. I talked about it to friends. I analyzed, and reanalyzed and contemplated.
I thought I was headed towards something good. I got rejected. Multiple times. I contemplated again and wondered if I would ever have it all figured out. But then I thought about a conversation with my mom recently. My hard working loving mother who had never, in her fifty something years, ever been asked what she wanted to do with her life, was finally asked to set goals for herself. She’s finally working at a company that values personal development and I? Have been blessed to work for two amazing companies that both put a strong emphasis on career development and creating skills that are transferrable.
I realized, my long term career goal hasn’t ever really changed since I finally figured it out. I found my passion (social media and marketing), I know what I’m good at (strategizing and networking through social networks) and I can certainly make money doing both of those things. It’s what I’m meant to be doing.
But the flaw in my system, is that dreams and goals and your dream career just don’t turn up on your door like a Jehovas Witness. You’ve gotta work for them. You’ve gotta be prepared for people to say no. Rejection hurts but in the working world, I’ve learned that you have to have a bit of thick skin to survive. Sometimes, I don’t always have thick skin and sometimes I cry when I get rejected but I’ve also learned – it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be disappointed. We don’t have to be superwomen all the time.
So yesterday I was in lululemon talking to an old coworker of mine who reminded me – to do it now. Just build a site and start courting clients. Then I realized, the old saying from A Field of Dreams is so true. SO TRUE.
If you build it…they will come.
So I did. It’s a start while I work on rebranding my blog to focus on not just my passion for healthy living as I study for my ACE certification, but also my social media expertise and general geekery. Because my goals excite me, and make me look forward to my future. But if I don’t put myself out there? They’re not going to happen so now’s the time. Big goals equal big risks and even if I eventually realize maybe I’m not suited to be a super freelance social media consultant, at least I will have tried.