Postpartum Woes: When Depression Hits

Last week I hit a sort of rock bottom.

I hadn’t really wanted to face anything, I tend to be a bit ostrich like when it comes to having all the feels.

But last week, it was a new low. Even for me.

The never ending feeling of that lump in the back of your throat like you’re just about to burst into tears, the constant napping, the scowling, the moodiness. I just couldn’t explain why. The tears, the lack of motivation. I felt like everything was a burden and about to come crashing down around me. Trying to answer the question “how are you doing?” or “what’s wrong?” was like torture because I couldn’t answer without breaking down.

I don’t have a history of depression and being almost ten months Post Partum, I didn’t think I could get PPD. (Note: I’m not self diagnosing here, I’m contemplating.) But PPD this late is possible, not self diagnosing, but we’re not ruling it out for now until I figure out if it’s a hormonal imbalance with the mini-pill.

I do also know that opening up to hubs and a couple of pals has done eons for me. Maybe it was the polar vortex last week that kept Ethan and I shut in that set off this avalanche of emotions, but really, my ambivalence towards everything I once gave two effs about was just growing and growing and I was getting tired of not caring about anyone. Or myself.

Then of course there was this neverending guilt. The guilt over having all of these feelings that were making me just…not care. Guilt over feeling blase. Guilt over my desire to go back to work (another post, another time); I felt like I was being crushed and I hit my breaking point.

It’s surprisingly easy to not really think things are different. Or notice that you’re on a downward spiral until you hit rock bottom and talk things out with someone and look back and think. Oh. Right. Huh. That all makes a lot more sense now.

But I think the changing hormones from ending nursing, side effects from the mini-pill (which I read is more common than one might think), the winter blahs, the end of my part time job in December all combined to equal a lot of emotional stress that I hadn’t really admitted to.

Talking things out has made me feel better. Talking them out with mamas who get it. Who have been there, makes me feel just a tad less alone. I am forever thankful for my mama pals for their comments, support and advice.

I did stop taking the mini-pill and will be changing up the birth control in the next week or so. I did read that some people had depression like symptoms with the mini pill so it could be just that and maybe I’ll start to feel better sooner, if things don’t change here shortly then I’ll be going to talk to someone because I want – nay, need – to be the best I can be for my family and feeling just…down is not the best version of myself. I’ve talked to my OB and she’s on board with my wait and see approach for now at least. We’ll revisit when I go in for the IUD in a week or two, but for now, I think seeing if it was simply a side effect of the mini pill is the route I want to take for now.

Things have been better this week. I’ve felt better. I’m a bit happier and I’m working on things. Things are looking up and I’m beginning to feel a bit more like myself every day.

Did you have any depression issues after baby? How did you handle them? 

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Not Alone

“You’re not alone.”

Not sure what instigated the argument, aside from me freaking out over a missing envelope which was, in the end, right where hubs said it was.

But it was one little thing that just set me off. It happened last year too. I found myself getting emotional. Down. Breaking down more often than not, at one point sobbing in my husbands lap on the floor for I don’t even know why.

Today, as soon as I walked in the door at work, I broke down. Sobbed into the arms of my coworkers, and all I can really equate it to is stress. I mean, my husband, after six months, still doesn’t have a job. There’s a lot that goes along with that, that I won’t spill here because it doesn’t need to be here but just imagine that.

So a coworker suggested counseling. Just to have an unbiased ear to listen to. I’ve done it before. Senior year of college, mostly because The Ex suggested I had commitment issues and that it might help to talk to someone to figure out why. Turns it out it was us not being right for each other and not necessarily me (there were other issues going on…but not related to my commitment).

So. This week, I’m going to find a new counselor. I’m going to go talk to someone. To save myself, to save my marriage, because sometimes, you just need someone (unbiased) to listen. I don’t want to feel sad, overwhelmed or even stressed out…all the time. Because I feel like I am. Even though I may be exaggerating, it just…feels that way.

So that’s me friends. I know I’m not alone in this battle – whatever this battle really is. I know I have amazing friends, a great husband, and a family who wishes they could be here for me.

In the meantime, I have a lot to be grateful for. I should start focusing on that more.

Today I’m grateful for…email chains with good friends, free wine tastings, new patent heels in nude, and coworkers who give amazing hugs when I really need them.

{side note: Don’t forget, I’m raffling off a yoga startup kit and a $50 lululemon gift card to raise money for Girls on the Run! Go here to see more details! Raffle ends Sunday February 6th!}

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